Tuesday, March 21, 2006

Anger

I. Definition of Anger
A. Disposition of the mind that entertains antagonism towards another individual, manifesting itself in various actions. (Matt. 5:21-22; Gen. 4:1-8)

II. God’s Perspective on Anger
A. Anger is an attitude resulting in action
(Prov. 14:17,29,15:18,16:32,19:19,22:24-25,)

III. Man’s Perspective on Anger
A. Anger is an emotion that is neutral

IV. Types of Anger
A. Godly - To be troubled or disgusted in attitude or action as a result of someone disgracing God or disregarding His Holy Laws (John 2:12-17; Epheisans 4:26-27, Mark 3:5,10:4,Matthew 23, Exodus 32:19,Jeremiah 15:17, Nehemiah 5:6, 2Kings 13:19)
B. Worldly- Negative attitude or action as a result of some need, desire, or standard not being met or being offended by someone (I Samuel 18:6-8, 20:24-34; James 4:1-2;Acts 7:54, Ephesians 4:31-32, Numbers 20:1-13,)

V. Issues that lead to Worldly Anger
A. Misplaced Dependency (depend on people, place, things, or events to provide what only God provides) (I John 2:15-17, Jeremiah 17:5-6)
B. Unrealistic Expectations (expecting things that are beyond the scope of possibility)
C. Untrained in Handling Disappointments (not accepting the fallibility of people, places, things and events)(Proverbs 13:12, Genesis 4:1-8)
D. Not Accepting powerlessness over people, places, outcomes of events (resisting the fact that you were not designed to control people and outcome of events) (Numbers 20:1-13,Eccl. 9: 1-2; Eccl. 7:13-14)
E. Fear (Proverbs 29:25)
F. Pride (I Sam. 18:6-8)
G. Ignorance to Truth (Proverbs19:2-3)
H. Living by the Flesh (Galatians 5:17, 19-21)
I. Inferiority Complex (consumed with seeing yourself as less than others) (I Sam. 18:6-8)

VI. Reasons Worldly Anger Shows Up (James 4:1-2)
A. Identity attacked or not affirmed
1. Put You Down
2. Does not encourage you
B. Unmet Desires
1. You want something you can’t control getting
Examples:
· To have control
· To be loved
· To be accepted
· To be understood
· To never hurt again
· To be respected
· To be served
· To have your way
· To be viewed as competent
· To be approved of
· To belong to someone
· To be held in high regard
· To maintain a favorable position with people
2. You’re getting something you don’t want and you can’t control it
Examples
· To lack control over people/outcome of events
· To be unloved
· To be rejected
· To be misunderstood
· To be hurt/disappointed
· To be disrespected
· To not be served
· To be denied your way
· To be viewed as incompetent
· To be disapproved of
· To not belong to anyone
· To be held in low regard
· To maintain an unfavorable position
C. Personal Standards not agreed with
1. You want something done or handled your way by others
2. You want life to fit your preference


VII. By-Products of Worldly Anger (Col. 3:8)
A. Bitterness
B. Slander
C. Abusive Speech
D. Wrath
E. Malice

VIII. Wrong ways people deal with anger (James 1:20)
A. Suppress- acting like it does not exist
B. Aggression- openly expressed anger at someone else’s expense
C. Passive Aggressive- indirectly expressed anger at someone else’s expense.

IX. The Right Way to Deal With Anger James 1:19,Ephesians 4:31, Colossians 3:1-8)
A. Acknowledge your anger
B. Confess the sin of your anger
C. Identify the Issues that lead up to your anger (Refer to V of Outline)
D. Identify reasons why you where angry (Refer to VI of Outline)
E. Identify the specific desires you are demanding to be fulfilled by God, people, places, events and things(Refer to VI of Outline)
F. Accept your inability to control God, people, and the outcome of circumstances
G. Accept these conditions:
1. The Person may be willing and able
2. The Person may be willing and unable
3. The Person may be unwilling and able
4. The Person may be unwilling and unable
5. It may be a desire that was not meant to be satisfied
H. Accept responsibility for your unloving thoughts, words, deeds, in the situation
I. Repent of unloving thoughts, words, deeds in the situation
J. Choose to serve and love others unconditionally
K. Follow the Biblical Mandate according to the relationship (1Cor13:4-7)
1. Husband/Wife (Eph. 5:18-33, Col. 3:18-19, I Peter 3:1-12)
2. Children (Eph. 6:1-2, Col. 3:20)
3. Parent (Eph. 6:4, Col. 3:21, Deut. 6:6-9, Prov. 22:6)
4. Friends (Prov. 27:5-6, Prov. 17:17,Prov. 27:9, Prov. 18:24)
5. Others (I Peter 3:8-12, Rom. 12:9-21, Gal. 6:1-10)
6. Leaders (I Tim. 4:16, Heb. 13:7, 17;I Peter 5:5, I Tim. 5:17-22, Luke 6:40)
7. Employer/Employee (Eph. 6:5-9, I Peter 2:18-29)
8. Government (Rom.13:1-2, I Peter 2:13-17)
9. Enemies (Luke 6:27-36)

Information taken from a handout by professor Nicolas Ellen.

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